It is a time of transition for so many of us. It’s the end of summer and for many people this signals a start to a new school year. For a lot of people, it is a time of lifted restrictions and resuming more normal social activities. For other people, it is time to go back to restricted activities because of new outbreaks and variants. As we look at out own transitions this September, think about taking time for what is important to you and your family, no matter what else is going on in the world.
So, what fun activities is it time for in your life this month? Will you go apple picking with your kids? Will you read a good book? How about meeting a friend for coffee on a Saturday morning? Starting a new month and a new season is a good time to make a list of what you hope to make time for this month in the way of activities and events.
What goals can you set for your family this month? With a new season, it may be time for looking at your responsibilities and how you will handle any changes that are coming with autumn. Sending kids back to school is one of the big transitions people are thinking abut right now. Teachers, professors, academic professionals everywhere are gearing up for an unpredictable year. Students of all ages are jumping back into school with continued covid-related issues affecting their experiences. Parents of students are faced now with helping their kids navigate unpredictable waters with school while they themselves work on coping with ever-changing circumstances in the world. For everyone who is looking at changes in schedules and responsibilities this fall, this is a good time to take stock of what will be new and different for you in the coming months and make some plans on how to tackle these changes.
Is it time for anything else as you head into a new season? Maybe you have been thinking about some personal goals, like improving your health habits. Maybe it’s a good time to take on daily meditations and mindfulness practices to build your overall wellness. With the weather cooling off a bit, maybe this is a good time to think about spending more time outdoors in comfortable temperatures.
It is always time for something – work, activities, family, relaxation. Take a few minutes to think about how to frame the next few months, making time for what is important to you.
It just keeps building up, the stress of 2020. It’s hard to look at social media or the news without sensing an instant rise in your stress level, with fresh new things to worry about every day. You can, in some cases, take action to deal with things going on in the world, whether it is contributing to a cause, getting involved in politics, or staying up-to-date with needed precautions against Covid-19, But even when you are able to take action, there is still a feeling of powerlessness, of hopelessness, when everything seems to be bad news.
For those who have been home with children for the past few months, trying to balance their own work with becoming surrogate teachers, this stress can be even worse because there is already a level of exhaustion that has set in every day. People who work in health care and other impacted industries may also be experiencing stress levels that are higher and different from others. During these seemingly unprecedented difficult times, it is important to remember 2 things: Perspective and Self-Care.
Perspective. Yes, it feels like the world is on fire. It feels like things will never be the same regarding illness, germs and feeling safe in public settings. It feels like there are more difficult questions than there are good and useful answers. But despite the fact that many of us have not experienced this level of turmoil in the world all at once, this is certainly not the first time that there has been extreme social unrest or pandemic disease. Remember that we often learn best from history. We have the advantage of being able to look back at past events and view them through the lens of what went well and what didn’t go so well. For example, a lot of health experts have been reflecting on the 1918 flu pandemic, with a sharp eye on which communities fared the best and which ones had worse outcomes. By looking at choices those communities made, we can have more informed decisions about how to manage transmission rates now, 100 years later. Health experts are also using history to drive clinical decision making. With a brand new virus, hard facts have been sparse. But by looking at other similar germs, outbreaks, treatments, and vaccines, health professionals and scientists are best able to make informed decisions as they work hard to get this under control.
When it comes to social unrest and politics, we also have history to lean on for guidance. As human beings living in societies around the world, many people are better off than their ancestors. This is largely due to social and political changes over time. Some of these needed changes happened peacefully while others came with the cost of human suffering and many lives lost. Looking at history, let the past be our guide about how to promote necessary social changes in our world in the most peaceful manner possible. And to keep things in perspective, use history to realize that our best chance to move forward is to recognize each others’ humanity, and to do this without prejudice to promote positive change. Do what you are able and willing to do – for some this may mean organizing events or putting up signs, for others it may mean writing to your government representatives and leaders, and for others it may just mean having conversations with your own children.
Self-Care. How can you even begin to manage your stress these days? We’re home with restless kids. The rules about going out keep changing. We still don’t know enough about this illness to feel safe but we are so sick of being restricted. Summer plans have had to change. The world outside our doors is falling apart. Political discourse is at an extreme low. Nothing feels right. Although it is hard to imagine, this is actually a recipe for us to prioritize self-care. Without managing your stress, you risk getting yourself into a mind space where you just can’t see past the negatives. So what are some things you can do?
Stop looking at the news and your social media so much. Allow yourself a small amount of time each day to catch up on developments with Covid-19, with politics, with world events, with local news. After that set amount of time, turn it off and live your own life for the rest of that day. A good balance might be 15-20 minutes in the morning and 15-20 minutes at night. Or, even better, just once a day.
Pick one thing you enjoy and carve out time to do it each day, even if only for a short time. Work on a puzzle, read a book, watch a show, do some yoga. Any of these things can be done for a short or a longer period of time, so you can tailor it to your own needs and your own schedule.
Move your body. There is overwhelming evidence for the positive effect of exercise on stress. Even moderate activity makes a difference. Take a walk, a bike ride, or do an exercise class online. Just like the activity you enjoy above, these can all be done according to your own time frame and schedule.
Breathe. When you start to notice your stress level rising for any reason at all, stop and breathe. Slow, deep breaths can do wonders for your immediate stress level. And it only takes a minute.
Talk. By engaging in conversation, you can reduce your stress in a few ways. If you are able to talk to people about your stress, you may find compassion and shared concerns, which can be helpful. If you talk to people about other things, this can be a nice distraction from your stress. Finally, if you talk to people for feedback, you might get some good ideas for problem-solving and coping.
Rest. Try to develop good sleep routines. If you have been having a hard time sleeping, take a good look at your routine. Are you doing or thinking about something stressful right before bed? Are you using a laptop, tablet or phone right before bed, which can affect sleep? Are you going to bed around the same time every night? All of these things can affect your sleep, and your sleep can affect your stress.
Use structure at home to build a sense of stability. Summer days can be chaotic with kids, and maybe even more so in places where activities are still limited. Try to develop some routines and structures in your home to help you and your family cope with this unique and unusual summer we’re having.
Remember what they tell you on the airplane. Put on your own oxygen mask before helping others with theirs. When you neglect your own basic needs and self-care, you are less able to make a difference to others.